When I was around 30 I went to see an intuitive, for some guidance.”I want to go back to a time around age 12 or 13, you took a decision then she said.” At first, I didn’t know what she was referring to. She said again, “around puberty, what was going on?” “That was when my parents’ divorce went through.” I replied, “the house was sold, we had to move.” “You took a decision then, if I don’t let anyone get close to me, they can’t hurt
me.”
I burst into tears. That was when I had become painfully shy. I had always wondered why I had become so shy. This Ah Ha moment allowed me to be able to begin breaking down my huge walls of shyness brick by brick.
I set off on an around the world spiritual journey that lasted a year and a half. I was searching for answers for the key to what holds us back from attaining all that we want. I did 4 ten-day silent meditation retreats, I learned about Buddhism in a monastery in Nepal, stayed at ashrams in India and Indonesia, it was Eat Pray Love, Canadian style.
Most of us have these fears and pain we have spent our lives covering up. Myself included. We sometimes use coping mechanisms that show up as overeating, using drugs or alcohol, overwork. And I’ve done them all. I got an A+ in partying in University and I still use overwork, although my favorite was the fear of being heard and seen, staying hidden. Waitressing for 18 years, when I didn’t have the confidence to
do anything else.
Over time it has become clear to me that most people have some form of these shadows of shame. Saying yes to things when we really mean no. I see this so often with many women clients who are constantly giving, giving, giving and rarely taking time for themselves.
- It can keep us agreeing to be shy when we are not shy
- And even worse, it can keep us overweight and struggling with releasing the unwanted pounds.
What are your painfully shy experiences?
When we step out
of the shadow of shame we release weight more easily.
- We have fewer cravings for unhealthy habits
- Reveal the beauty of our bodies
- Have more energy and confidence
It is time for us all to Step out of the Shadows of shame - that keep us hidden, keep us from being less than who we are, that keep us feeling unsafe in the world.
If you are ready to step into your power and into a body that is healthy, vibrant, alive and allows you to shine, join me for my
upcoming Online Weight Loss Group starting Wednesday April 18th at 7 PM.
Stay tuned, as I am only taking 20 participants and will be opening the cart and allowing sign ups at the end of this week!
